Archive for October, 2004

Would Anyone Even Notice?

Friday, October 29th, 2004

In all the excitement of the Red Sox winning their first World Series since 1918, I never even noticed that we’re missing hockey season. Did you know that? I had no idea that hockey is normally being played professionally this time of year.

What does that say about the sport of hockey? What if you decided to strike, and no one even knew you were gone?

Okay, the theologian in me wants really badly to make some kind of spiritual point here. The gist of my thought is this: What if Christians decided to stop meeting together on Sunday mornings. I mean, there’s all this fighting going on about what we can and can’t do — what we should and should not do. What if we just said, “To heck with it” and stopped meeting altogether?

Would anyone even notice we were gone?

I Was So Ready

Thursday, October 28th, 2004

For one brief moment last night, I was ready. I made my peace and sat with expectant surrender.

But it didn’t happen.

I had taught a Bible class last night, so it would have been good timing. I was all prayed up, too. All my kids are secure (I’m pretty sure), and I was in the proper frame of mind.

But it didn’t happen.

It occurred to me that Jesus might not want the Red Sox to win a World Series. In fact, I actually thought it would be just like him to show up in the bottom of the ninth and say, “Hey, guys. Game over, okay? Come on home now.”

But it didn’t happen.

Nothing But Sincerity…As Far As the Eye Can See

Wednesday, October 27th, 2004

We watched It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown tonight. Anabel remembers it from last year. Eliza says she does, but I have my doubts. It’s amazing to see that Charlie Brown still holds kids absolutely spellbound. I think the girls enjoyed it almost as much as Jill and I did.

The best part is when the kids are going trick or treating.

Kid #1: “I got a popcorn ball.”

Kid #2: “I got a pack of gum.”

Charlie Brown: “I got a rock.”

Anabel laughed every single time.

But the most touching part to me — and the part I’d forgotten about to be honest — was Linus in the pumpkin patch pleading his case for the existence of the Great Pumpkin. Linus is the smart one — the well-read one. It’s uncharacteristic of him to be duped by this.

The most heartbreaking part is when he has a brief moment of doubt. At least, he thinks he does. He says, “If the Great Pumpkin comes, I’ll still put in a good word for you. Oh, no! I said, ‘If….’ One slip like that could make the Great Pumpkin pass you by!”

It’s a good thing Christians know the difference between God and the Great Pumpkin.

Answering Luke

Tuesday, October 26th, 2004

In the comments section of my last entry, Luke wrote this: “So, who is responsible for this? Is it the parents, is it the childrens workers, is it the kid, is it the pastor for not having good enough leaders? I don’t really know either, I am just wondering what you think.”

It’s everyone’s fault. And it’s no one’s fault. I’ll try to unpack that for you now.

It’s the parents’ fault for not training their child to respect others. But it may not be their fault after all. They may have never been given the tools they need to train their child. They may not even understand that it’s their job to do so. They may have bought into the idea that society pushes (and churches do, too) about outsourcing your kids training to the experts.

It’s the children’s workers fault for not understanding how the curriculum is designed to work. At 252Basics, we don’t teach kids the Bible. We teach them Christlike virtues. We use the Bible to illustrate these virtues, but Bible instruction is not an end in and of itself; it must be a means to a greater end. That end is having kids grow up and become more like Jesus. But it may not be the Children’s workers fault after all. They’re doing children’s ministry the only way they know how — the only way they’ve ever seen it done.

It’s the kid’s fault for not behaving himself. As my friend Hal Runkel says, adults are not responsible for our children; we’re responsible to them. If our kid decides to act like an animal, that’s his choice. But it may not be his fault after all. He’s learned how Sunday morning works and is working within that system pretty well. His “Children’s Church” rewards one thing and one thing only: recitation of the memory verse. He met the standards and was rewarded accordingly. As far as he knows, this is the only goal he needs to concern himself with.

It’s the preacher’s fault for going 25 minutes over his scheduled time. It’s no wonder the kids were climbing the walls — they’d been there for what felt like an eternity. He may say he fully supports the children’s ministry, but if he goes 25 minutes over, he communicates to everyone that what he’s doing is more important than anything else on that campus. It shows how little he really values the children and the children’s workers. But it may not be his fault after all. Kids don’t give much money, parents do. As long as their contribution meets budget, that feels like a win to most pastors. Attendance, buildings and contribution — these are the ABCs of church health. At least, that’s what most pastors think.

Actually, it’s the system’s fault. There’s a saying in systems management circles: Your system is perfectly designed to produce the results you’re getting. In other words, that kid isn’t behaving that way in spite of what we’re doing; he’s behaving that way precisely because of what we’re doing. If your church isn’t producing disciples (whether among children or among adults), you probably don’t need to try harder — you need to try something else.

So, Luke, whose fault is it? It’s everyone’s. It’s those workers and that kid and his parents and the pastor and yours and mine. Until we’re courageous enough to re-think and re-boot our churches, we will continue to produce the same results we’ve been getting for the past generation — namely, a 65-80% drop-out rate and consumers who sit and soak and aren’t really interested in becoming more like Jesus.

That’s what I think.

How to Know When the System is Broken

Monday, October 25th, 2004

I watched without him knowing. He was probably eight or nine years old, the loudest of a loud group of kids his own age. Maybe 20 minutes ago he went up on the platform at “children’s church” and recited the memory verse: “Show proper respect to everyone” (1 Peter 2:17). For his effort, he received a candy bar.

The visiting child seated next to him had not memorized the memory verse — did not even know there was a memory verse — so that kid didn’t get anything.

Now, I watched as the candy bar wielding boy stole someone else’s candy bar, told a lie to cover it up and kicked another boy in an area that should never be kicked. I called him over and asked, “How did you manage to get two candy bars?”

“I won them,” he lied.

“You won both of them?”

“Well, I won this one.”

“What about that one?”

“Oh,” he said slowly — thinking. “This one belongs to my friend over there. I’m playing a joke on him.”

“I see. And what did you have to do to win the first one?”

“I had to say the memory verse.”

“Which memory verse?”

“Today’s memory verse.”

“Oh, yeah. Help me remember. What’s today’s memory verse?”

“Ummm…I can’t remember.”

“It’s hanging around your neck,” I reminded him of the craft he had just spent 20 minutes making.

He looked sideways, conspiratorially, and whispered, “I didn’t even memorize it before. It was up on the screens, and they didn’t know it. I just went up there and read it.”

“Can you read it to me now?”

“Sure, ‘Show proper respect to everyone’ (1 Peter 2:17).”

“Great job. Say, what’s the word respect mean?”

“I don’t know. Probably something like worship or good manners or something. Wait! Does it mean obey?”

“Congratulations on your candy bar.”

“In the Sweet By and By”

Friday, October 22nd, 2004

I’m in St. Louis today. Much of the town is still hungover from last night’s baseball game. It’s a beautiful autumn day here — cool without being chilly. I’m doing some storytelling tonight, then I have tomorrow to myself and I’ll finish the weekend by training about 100 people at a church here how to help parents take responsibility for the spiritual development of their children.

On the plane this morning they were playing Appalachian folk music while we were boarding. The last song before take off was, “In the Sweet By and By.” I have to admit, rest on that beautiful shore sounds nice, but that didn’t exactly inspire confidence in me.

As good as God is, as much as he’s given me…if this ain’t the sweet by and by, I cannot imagine what it’ll be like. And I’m not in any hurry to get there.

Not that I’m lobbying for the other place, mind you. But God made all this stuff — baseball, autumn, Italian food, music — and I plan on enjoying them all as good gifts from a good God.

Legalism Sucks

Tuesday, October 19th, 2004

I’m sitting in Starbucks trying not to listen to the conversation happening behind me. It’s legalism run wild, and I’m internally debating whether or not it’s appropriate to speak up.

I’m hearing all the old standards, “Hey, I’ve got a problem with it, and the Bible says if your brother’s got a problem with it, don’t do it.”

Is that really what the Bible says?

“Scripture says, ‘Avoid even the appearance of evil’.” Again, is that really what the Bible says?

Someone’s apparently been caught in something — someone in leadership has crossed a line. And that’s bad. I’m not minimizing that.

But where does all the venom come from? Why is it such a positively vindicating thing? Why has whatever this event is triggered this landslide of judgment, this laundry list of everything the guy has done wrong over the last couple of years? And why is this being talked about in Starbucks?

Here’s the truth: Legalism sucks. It sucks the life right out of people. It sucks the joy out of life. It sucks the Christ out of Christianity.

And it keeps sucking me into the conversation behind me.

I’m So Vain

Sunday, October 17th, 2004

I probably think this blog is about me.

But life isn’t about me. Sure, I play a role — sometimes a really large role — but life itself isn’t about me. Life existed before me and will outlast me. My life has meaning as it finds its role in the grand, unfolding story that is about God.

I’m not talking about some kind of weird absorption — “None of self and all of Thee” we used to sing when I was a kid. That’s dumb. There’s always going to be a difference between me and God, so my existence is always going to have to do with me. But if I ever start to think that I’m the center of the universe — the star attraction — well, that’s delusional.

The most wonderful, crazy thought imaginable is this one: The God of the universe, the one who spoke all this stuff into existence, the one who hung the stars like he was hanging curtains, That One — he has invited me to play a part in his story. He actually wants to take my story and weave it into the grand tapestry that he is unfolding for all the universe to see.

This blog’s not about me…not really. It’s about how I fit into God’s blog.

Father Abraham Had Many Flaws

Thursday, October 14th, 2004

I think Abraham may have been trying to help us out by lowering the bar so much. He lied, doubted, fornicated, laughed at God and pretty much stumbled his way into the 11th chapter of Hebrews.

But he kept going. That’s one thing I’ve got to give the old geezer: he never stopped.

He picked up and left everything familiar. He kept trying to get his wife pregnant. He actually took his son, his only son, Isaac, whom he loved, up the mountain. He walked all that way — that entire three-day journey — and still had enough faith to figure that God would raise his son from the dead if it came down to it.

Mostly what Abraham says in Genesis 22 is, “Here I am.” It’s a simple statement, not meant to clarify his location as much as to share the condition of his heart. He says it in response to God at the beginning of the story. He says it in response to his son in the middle of the story. He says it to the Angel of the Lord at the end of the story: “Here I am.”

I’m here. I’m not going anywhere. No running or hiding or evading. I’m ready for this. I’ve spent 30 years preparing for this. You tell me what to do, and I’ll do it. I may or may not understand it, but I’ll keep walking down this road until you tell me to stop.

Faith isn’t some kind of doubt-free certainty. Sometimes faith is just tenaciously holding on and refusing to walk away.

In the end, Abraham realizes that he has nothing left to withhold from God. And nothing — not his laughter, not his destiny, not even the promise of God — can replace God himself. God himself, the presence of God, is more than enough. If I get nothing out of this covenant other than the opportunity to spend time with God, that’s enough.

Father Abraham had many flaws; lack of faith wasn’t one of them.

Wildly Unproductive in Areas that Matter the Least

Tuesday, October 12th, 2004

Today I feel like I’ve accomplished absolutely nothing. And that’s a problem because I have a ton of stuff to do. I’m four chapters away from putting a huge project to bed. I should be able to crank out a chapter today, but it’s already 4:45, and it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen.

I spent about two hours looking for a quote that I’m not sure really exists.

I think the problem stems from the way my day got started. I promised my daughter Eliza a trip to Krispy Kreme as a reward for being brave recently. Please note, I did not use this as a bribe; I offered it after the fact.

Anyway, we got a late start, and I felt like I spent my entire morning waiting, driving, sitting — everything except writing.

Now, I’m thinking about my day — realizing just how little I’ve done today. But is that accurate?

I spent time with my little girl this morning — an event which I confess is all too rare. We enjoyed one of the true joys in life: hot Krispy Kreme with coffee (me) and milk (her).

So, let me be wildly unproductive in areas that matter the least…as long as I can spend some time with one of my kids and share a simple joy with her.